Paul Palmer, proud to be a pisces man

Success comes in the face of adversity. Life moves on through this season of renewal – and expectations of new beginnings are as vibrant as the daffodils and tulips. Setbacks can seem overwhelming, but you should learn from your experience and have the courage to teach others so that they can benefit too.

When adversity strikes, whether it be loss of your job, an illness, a natural disaster or when you take a big hit that really knocks you off your feet for a while, how fast you get up again depends on a number of things, such as: how good your support network is; how solid your self-esteem is; the extent to which you believe that you can control your own destiny, and your experiences at overcoming adversity in the past.

If you want to shorten the time it takes to get back on your feet, try this: Ask yourself how it will look when you no longer have your current problems. Spend time visualizing yourself in that picture and imagining how you’ll feel; do it over and over, day after day, week after week. In addition, list your strengths and past accomplishments and add to this list on a daily basis.

At the same time, set and prioritise some immediate, short-term goals to improve your situation; and write a detailed plan of action for the top three, including day and time.

Once you’ve accomplished a few short-term goals, you may feel ready to do some long-term visioning and goal-setting. Finally – and this is so important – no matter how much you’ve lost, take time to help someone else who is struggling. Even the worst experiences can be used to learn and grow.

Paul Palmer

Learn from your experience then have the courage to teach someone else so that they may also benefit from your experience.

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Most people who have near-death experiences report some common feelings. Why do you think that is?

Now, I am not talking about what their experience of death is like. I am referring to their attitude toward life. Almost every one reports feeling more connected to humanity and less concerned about self.

In 1973, when Stevie Wonder came out of a four-day coma after an automobile accident, he deepened his commitment to helping his fellow man. “I will not be operating so much ‘on’ time as ‘in’ time,” he said, meaning that he would strive to help others before it was too late.

This is exactly what people in similar circumstances report they feel – an overwhelming desire to be of service. For many of us, it seems to take a severe shakeup or a close call with death to wake us up to our own sense of purpose and our own sense of nature. Just like Ebeneezer Scrooge, in the story “A Christmas Carol.” He had to be shown his own death before the spirits could convince him to change his ways.

How would you live differently if you had just come back from the brink of death? Would you pay more attention to your business or to your family? What would you treasure? What would you stop doing? What would you start?

Maybe it doesn’t have to take a near-death experience to live every day with gratitude, and to create the most complete life you can have. What are your first steps?

Paul Palmer

Live your life right the first time. you might not get another chance.

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Do you think that what you believe can have a significant affect on your physical health? I do and have had the courage to teach others the same beliefs. For many years Dr. Albert Bandura of Stanford University, has been the world’s leading authority on efficacy theory. Efficacy theory is a scientific way to describe how our beliefs about our abilities affect those same abilities and, indeed, our entire lives.

For almost 20 years, I have been studying people, their behaviour and how what they believe affects everything they are and do. Dr. Bandura has been doing research for about 40 years, trying to determine just how this works. He found that our beliefs about our ability to change health habits, and about the degree of control we have over our lives, have a profound affect on our health.

These beliefs determine whether we will actually do what we need to do in order to stay healthy. They also determine how well we handle stress. Excessive stress has been linked directly to weakness of the immune system.

Bandura’s researchers found that it is impossible to predict how well a given patient will do based on medical evidence alone. Arthritis patients learned to control their pain without drugs, as well as they did with drugs. They also reduced their dependence on doctors and slowed the progression of the arthritis.

I am certain that our beliefs directly affect our health and well-being. Thanks to Bandura and others like him, the research to help explain how this works is also available to everyone.

Paul Palmer

If we all had the courage to teach what we know the world would be a better place.

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I’m a family man, family palmer is made up of myself and my three boys, currently 7, 12 and 14 years old. Of course they have a mother but she left us so I’m not including her since she left the marital home.
We do alright, Michael and James both help me looking after Daniel. They are actually stricter than I am. I can be a bit of a soft touch at times, the youngest Daniel knows what he can get away with. Doesn’t stop him pushing the boundaries though.
When I’m not busy looking after them I enjoy going dancing in Brighton and Crawley, both in Sussex, England.
I have lots of friends through the children and dancing. It’s partner dancing so mainly girls and women.
I started taking Michael to ceroc dance lessons a month ago and he’s loving it.
Shame the other two aren’t old enough yet as baby sitting is restrictive and expensive.
Personally I have just started to learn Tango, it’s great fun but not as intimate as people make out. Then again that could be because I’m still a beginner. That will change with time of course, things always do.

Paul Palmer

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