Paul Palmer, proud to be a pisces man

The family is the main place where we develop our self-esteem. It can also be a place where self-esteem withers. I intentionally act in a way that builds self esteem when family palmer get together, letting my kids help me makes them feel good. I can see the benefits in their attitudes and behaviour.

Virginia Satir was a family therapist who influenced and touched people all over the world. She was a pioneer in the study of self-esteem, and had this to say about families: “Feelings of worth flourish in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.”

But if you grew up in a family where one or both parents were abusive, where there were unresolved mental health problems, or where alcohol or drugs were an issue, you know that family life can be very different from this description. In fact, it can be downright damaging.

Perhaps, now it’s time for you to take on a parenting role, and maybe you’re wondering if you can break the cycle. Or maybe you’ve been a parent for a while and realize you could be doing a better job of it. Whatever your situation, you’ll benefit from taking an honest look at your strengths and limitations.

You see, when you acknowledge and accept the past, reach out for new understanding (as you’re doing now), and then decide you’d like to raise your kids in a better way, you are breaking the cycle. And you are building your own self-esteem – the first step in helping your own kids to do well.

Paul Palmer

My wife and I split up some time ago, the boys no longer accept her abusive behaviour when they see here. I resisted breaking up the family palmer for four years now I wish it had happened years earlier.

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This year I decided it was time for the family palmer to start taking more vitamins. It’s hard to constantly focus every day as a single parent to plan meals to get the balance right.

I joined the Vemma programme initially to learn about the business opportunity, however this soon changed. The first product we tried was Verve, it has a healthy balance of vitamins and minerals with the added natural constituents of Vemma. The difference though is the energy formula as a carbonated drink in a can.

Our verve experience has been very excellent right from day one. My eldest son is 14 years old. He likes staying up late watching films and playing games. In the morning it takes some time to gain enthusiasm.

However on his first day at school with Verve his teacher noticed a difference during the first class of the day. He was much more alert and responding to classroom tasks quicker than his teacher could keep up.

The contrast was so much that his teacher noticed the difference and asked why. Physiologically the results do make sense. I’m a biologist by trade and know the brain needs glucose to function efficiently so I believe the positive effects of Verve with it’s antioxidant properties, balanced nutrition and high energy formula are responsible for the positive results.

School is out for summer now so I will continue the “experiment” in September. I have seen the difference in my 12 year old as well though, both had higher energy levels and improved performance.

It’s like giving my family palmer a jump start in the morning, so we get more out of the whole day.

Paul Palmer

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If you are a parent or grandparent, you know there are plenty of rules for raising kids. However, we are all different, including our children so ignoring these rules can sometimes be a good idea.

Some years ago, in his book, How to Parent, Dr. Fitzhugh Dodson said that, “Raising a child is a human relationship, and human relationships cannot be reduced to a set of rules.”

Rules are only guidelines, and both you and your child are unique. Each of you is a product of a special combination of genes and environment that has never existed before. What’s more, you have a special relationship with each of your children that is different from the relationship of any other two people on this planet.

So, avoid the mistake of trying to fit this relationship into any preconceived idea of what it’s “supposed to be” like. Refrain from dogmatically following a set of rules, even when the rules are written by a so-called “expert.” And, don’t try to force your child to conform to someone else’s idea of what she or he should be.

The most important thing you can do for your children or grandchildren is to offer them stability, guidance and support while they explore, and learn to realize, the unique potential self which is unfolding within them.

You can reinforce their efforts to achieve worthwhile goals, you can set reasonable limits, and you can remain flexible. But most of all, you can make sure they know that you recognize and respect them for the goodness that resides within each of them.

Paul Palmer

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