Paul Palmer, proud to be a pisces man

In case I haven’t mentioned it lately, I really do enjoy getting feedback about my blog posts – from comments to stories, and occasionally some that take me to task for a variety of reasons. It’s all good, because I know that you are giving thought to some important issues.

For example the wants vs should post was rather thought provoking to some followers. Life is meant to be lived, and lived with joy. I do not believe any Creator would create something as precious as life and mean it to be miserable or a drudgery. So here are a few thoughts:

I figure that most of us were raised with “shoulds” from our parents and family members, perhaps our faith. And while some of these “shoulds” were valid and created to maintain safe and productive communities, some of them have become millstones around our necks.

You know I am a big advocate of self-examination. It is good – from time to time – to take a look at the attitudes and habits that are running our life. Along with the comfort zones and restrictive zones, I take a look to see if I have a “should” running around unattended. I give it a thorough “look-see” to make sure that it is valid, and not keeping me from exploring new opportunities or possibilities.

Life is about choices, and you have the ability to choose. You always have had this ability. I suggest that not only do you have the ability, you have the responsibility to make choices for yourself.

Paul Palmer

It is your life, and you are in the driver’s seat, if you choose to be. Take control and let you life speak for you.

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I enjoy the goal setting and visualisation process, sometimes more than working towards my goals. When I am not seeing a great deal of change, but feel the tension growing between where I am and where I want to be. The experience can be disconcerting, but is perfectly natural, in fact, it is necessary. I focus on keeping the picture of where I want to be growing ever stronger, and my behaviour smehow seems to drive me subconciously towards my goals.

One important part of goal setting is the quality of the goals you set. If you are setting goals for enormous financial gain, power, or the run up the corporate ladder, that’s OK – if that’s the end you want. However, the real point of setting these goals, and affirming their achievement, is to unlock those skills and talents that have been lying dormant inside you. All that potential that is inside each of us is wasted if it is ignored, or left unfulfilled, and the world will be a poorer place because of it.

When you honestly work at building a better you, you are positively influencing those around you. You are becoming a better spouse, parent or grandparent; a better brother or sister or child. This influence begins to extend out to your neighborhood and community, to your city or town, and to your nation – and we all begin to build a better world.

Wonderful things can some from this simple, “selfish” act of setting goals. What can you see?

Paul Palmer

let your life speak when your dreams become reality.

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Ask yourself what do I want from life? Can you really let your life speak for you or do you dress it up in fantasy?

I am going to walk you through is the process of vision-setting and goal-setting that will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life. It’s the process I use personally myself and have done for years. When we are done, New Year’s resolutions will seem like a quaint parlor game.

Ask yourself the question, “Where am I going?” For most of us, that is a question upon which we spend far too little time. And when we do, it is usually because of some situation that has happened, forcing us to take a look. Well, let’s take the “have to” out of it, and really spend a some time to honestly observe where we are going. Being honest with yourself is very important in this process.

You might want to write down your thoughts and observations. From personal experience, I can tell you that journaling has provided me with more insights and “ah ha!” moments than I could have ever imagined. Once you see these thoughts on paper, you will see patterns start to emerge – patterns that may not have been obvious while they were locked inside your brain.

Once you have honestly figured out where you are going, it’s time to decide if this is what you “want.” Let’s face it, sometimes life gets in the way, and we lose contact with those things that we know will fulfill us. I am not talking about material things here, but the letting loose of those talents and abilities that have been locked up inside us.

So, when you have a few moments of quiet, let your mind “out for a walk” and spend some time thinking about what it is you really want – want to have, want to be, want to do. Put no restrictions on your thoughts, just let your mind wander and write down what you are thinking about.

Paul Palmer

Be careful what you wish for, my dreams came true.

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If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know when you get there?

There are two very important things you have to know if you want to plan a journey. You have to know where you are, and you have to know exactly where you want to go. Once you know these two things, the rest becomes simple. You make a plan, which might be a map or a strategy, and you follow your plan.

Going through life without setting clear goals is a little like starting out on a trip with no idea where you intend to go. Now you might wind up having a very pleasant time, but the odds are against it. Somewhere along the line, you will have to make some choices. Now would you rather decide where to go based on the things you happen to have with you, or would you rather pack things that are appropriate for the destination?

Having clear goals helps you to avoid time-consuming side trips down roads that lead nowhere. Clear goals act like the rudder on a ship. They steer you in the direction you have chosen, and help you avoid the dangerous currents and rocks that might otherwise run you aground or take you to the last place on earth you want to go.

Finally, goals give you a sense of accomplishment and reason to celebrate, because you know when you’ve arrived. Do you know where you want to go in your life? If not, it will be worth your time to find out. Start goal-setting today. Wherever it is, you can get there!

Paul Palmer

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Most people who have near-death experiences report some common feelings. Why do you think that is?

Now, I am not talking about what their experience of death is like. I am referring to their attitude toward life. Almost every one reports feeling more connected to humanity and less concerned about self.

In 1973, when Stevie Wonder came out of a four-day coma after an automobile accident, he deepened his commitment to helping his fellow man. “I will not be operating so much ‘on’ time as ‘in’ time,” he said, meaning that he would strive to help others before it was too late.

This is exactly what people in similar circumstances report they feel – an overwhelming desire to be of service. For many of us, it seems to take a severe shakeup or a close call with death to wake us up to our own sense of purpose and our own sense of nature. Just like Ebeneezer Scrooge, in the story “A Christmas Carol.” He had to be shown his own death before the spirits could convince him to change his ways.

How would you live differently if you had just come back from the brink of death? Would you pay more attention to your business or to your family? What would you treasure? What would you stop doing? What would you start?

Maybe it doesn’t have to take a near-death experience to live every day with gratitude, and to create the most complete life you can have. What are your first steps?

Paul Palmer

Live your life right the first time. you might not get another chance.

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If a doctor told you had a year to live, what would you do? Would you do something amazing? Or perform some great feat to let your life speak without words.

Some time ago, I was in a group that was discussing how to get the most out of life. The question arose about what one would do, if they had only a year to live. Some people said they would travel around the world, others said they would try to heal relationships, and others said they would spend time in meditation and prayer.

There was on person, Diane, who had the best answer of them all. She didn’t hesitate a moment before she said loudly and clearly, “Get a second opinion!” And then she added, “And maybe a third and fourth one too.”

You see, when Diane was told she had terminal cancer many years ago that is exactly what she did. She said, “Maybe I have cancer, but it doesn’t have to be terminal,” and she went looking for doctors who would join her in developing an effective strategy to beat the disease. And she did beat it. Diane doesn’t give her power away to anyone just because they are supposed to be experts.

If you want to read something eye opening, get hold of a copy of “The Experts Speak.” This book has been around for a while, but it is a 392-page collection of noted experts being wrong about almost everything. The section on doctors will astound you.

Don’t ever accept a death sentence from a doctor or a pronouncement of doom from a so-called authority. After all, according to the experts, the sun goes around the earth, smoking is good for us, there is no global warming, and the Titanic is unsinkable!

Paul Palmer

Always think positive and you will get the most out of your life, let your life speak for itself by your actons and what you achieve.

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